About Nancy Koenig

About Nancy K

Coach Nancy Koenig

Nancy Koenig is the creator of Love Without Traffic and Stop Dating Narcissists. She helps readers, and the clients she coaches and mentors, release the emotional congestion, childhood traumas and family of origin patterns that keep them feeling victimized and trapped in painful relationship patterns.

For over 20 years, Nancy has been helping readers and clients create the relationships they desire, starting with the ones they share with themselves. She specializes in love addiction, codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery and teaches quick methods to permanently release trauma, self-judgment, guilt and shame. These are themes in her novel, Love Without Traffic, which will be published this spring.

Nancy will be publishing the novel this spring, and is currently completing her second and third books, which dive deeper into these topics.

Nancy was featured on the Emotional Abuse Recovery & Resiliency summit (2018) and has spoken and taught workshops at treatment centers, spiritual centers, schools and bookstores. She was a recent guest on The Buttrfly Effect, a codependency recovery podcast.

Fill out the contact form at the bottom of this page if you’d like to explore how Nancy can help you create freedom from emotional/narcissistic abuse and addiction, more harmonious and enjoyable relationships, and the life you desire.


Nancy helps people release trauma, emotional, behavioral and subconscious blocks, which she refers to as “traffic,” quickly – without even having to relive painful events from the past. Then they can create the relationships and lives they want.

Nancy’s primary focus in on helping people improve all relationships, starting with the one from which all others stem: the one with self.

She became iPEC-certified in 2007, when most people still asked what a life coach was. She has been specializing with love addiction, codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery since 2015 and has been an addiction specialist since 2001. She has served as a CASAC, sober coach, sober companion, crisis interventionist and treatment center escort.

Her clients have ranged from high-profile to homeless, and she has supported women and men of all different races and backgrounds. While working in the addiction recovery industry, she had a success rate high above the industry standard, in terms of helping clients create lasting sobriety.

This was, in part, due to Nancy’s understanding that addiction is a symptom, not a cause. Clients do not heal the trauma that led to addiction by getting sober – clients get (and stay) sober by healing their trauma. She builds easy, natural rapport with her clients, and earns their trust quickly by being authentic and accepting, in an industry that is controlling and judgmental.


Nancy was manifesting her dreams long before she’d heard of the law of attraction or vision boards. Prior to her 20+ year coaching and mentoring career, she created her dream job as a writer for the National Hockey League (primarily with NHL.com).

She created this dream career at a time when it was still a rare one for women, especially one without a background in journalism, experience as a writer or contacts in sports. She did so without applying for a job or even sending out resumes. The path found her, as our paths tend to do when we have cleared mental and emotional congestion and subconscious blocks (traffic!).

Nancy loved this exciting career which involved interviewing NHL players, writing features, blogging, attending games and events around the league and interacting with fans around the world.

She left the NHL shortly after 9/11, when it became clear she was destined to impact lives in greater ways than she could in the world of sports, but she never stopped writing.

Nancy has authored two books, the first of which will be published in the spring of 2021, and is working on her third. She contributed to the soon to be published Letters to Ex Lovers, and provided stories and a chapter introduction to 10 Habits of Truly Optimistic People (Viva Editions, 2015). She also put together the chapter on addiction recovery with stories from inspirational writers.

Her blog has helped many people understand, break free and recover from narcissistic abuse.

Contact Nancy to learn how she can support you with one-on-one coaching, group coaching and online workshops, or to book her for a speaking event or podcast interview:

Listen to Nancy’s podcast interview on the Buttrfly Effect: https://buttrflyeffect.libsyn.com/episode-1-what-is-codependency