On September 5th, I will be featured as an expert speaker on the Emotional Abuse Recovery + Resilience Summit! I am turning the blog about my experience through abuse that some of you followed here into a book that will be published by late 2019.
This is one of the reasons I stopped blogging, and removed my posts. The other was out of respect for the man I was writing about, who has been one of my greatest teachers in this lifetime. I think he will be surprised by the book itself, because I see our entire experience from a very high and grateful perspective today.
One I was not capable of when I believed I was a victim. I wish I could travel back four years, to let that terrified shell of a woman know this day was coming.
I’d hug her tightly and let her know she was safe. I’d tell her that her experiences of abuse would not only lead to healing, empowerment and freedom, but that she would one day light this path for others.
My talk will be about reclaiming personal power from codependency, the magnet that attracts and glue that perpetuates abusive relationships. It will teach how to:
~stop people-pleasing and start self-easing
~feel your emotions instead of attempting to avoid them by escaping the external triggers and self-medicating
~quiet your critical voice and turn the volume up on your inner advocate
~stop blaming others for your unhappiness and learn how to command it without needing anyone else to change
~stop wasting your energy trying to make others behave the way you want them to and stop behaving the ways you can’t handle
~stop enabling others and take responsibility for yourself
~set and enforce healthy boundaries
~say no so you can say yes to what you want
~assertively express yourself instead of expecting others to read your mind or holding in your feelings until you explode
~let go of guilt
~honor your own needs, feelings and opinions instead of making everyone else’s more important and resenting them for it
~stop overextending and depleting yourself and learn how to give from heart
~learn why you don’t actually help someone else when giving is coming from a place of depletion or obligation
~release people, situations and environments that feel unhealthy, in a way that doesn’t attract the same issues in different forms
Everyone knows someone – often many someones – adversely affected by codependency and who are engaged in abusive or otherwise unhealthy relationships with self and others.
The challenges faced in these relationships are doorways to transformation if we are willing to see beyond the convincing veil of victim consciousness.
Please share the link with anyone who can benefit.
Remember to check out the summit daily for new speakers and topics!