Are you struggling with mild or severe anxiety and other uncomfortable or painful emotions, due to relationship issues? 

Are you caught in a loop of obsessive focus on what someone else has been saying and doing? Do you feel victimized and/or stuck in what seems like an endless power struggle?

Are your relationship challenges progressing and/or are you caught in a cycle that goes from periods of what seems like deep connection to abominable friction and pain?

Do you explain and defend yourself, apologize and put massive amounts of time and energy into trying to find peace with this person, but rarely if ever experience their accountability or a willingness to meet you halfway?  

Does it seem like your emotions are spiraling out of control on a regular basis? Do you find yourself  becoming increasingly reactionary and behaving in ways that are just not like you?

Are your relationship issues impacting other areas of your life, such as your health, career, finances, etc.?   

Have you been trying to ascertain if you are experiencing emotional, psychological and/or narcissistic abuse?

Freedom from your pain, reactivity, trauma and/or toxic relationship patterns is not only possible; it’s also your mandate. It’s a promise you made to yourself, long ago.

In fact, the very circumstances of your relationships and life that seem so frustrating, confusing and even emotionally disastrous are, despite appearances, the very same paths that can lead to healing parts of your heart and life that felt broken long before your current relationship challenges commenced. 

With a revolutionary energy healing process, some insight into the dynamics you’ve been engaging in and why, the activation of your superpowers and a simple trick to deflect verbal abuse and end all power struggles on the spot, you can experience empowerment beyond your present ability to imagine such.

I know, because I have not only helped light the path for my clients to quickly find their personal keys to healing, but because I first hiked that pitch-dark, terrifying and lonely trek myself. There were times I didn’t even think it was possible to find my way out of the trauma, or ever feel even remotely okay again, let alone peaceful, joyful and aligned with my dreams.

invested a lot of energy trying to heal in the traditional, psychology-based ways promoted by the abuse recovery industry, only to find they provided short-term relief at best, while embedding me even deeper into victim consciousness. This led to cocreating bottoms I couldn’t have imagined in nightmares, with people who had nothing to do with the relationship I first began blogging about four years ago. 

Victim consciousness begets victim experiences. 

I understand now that I never could have helped anyone else unless I’d had such a full experience of that. Now, I can serve as your tour guide through the darkness, navigating around the therapeutic dead ends and traps I fell into, and quickly guide you to the source of your true power and healing.

Are you ready, or even ready to be ready? If so, call me at 516-526-8455 or email for a specially discounted first session by phone, audio or video platforms.

If you are experiencing lesser relationship challenges, such as power struggles, it may be the only session you’ll require to shift that dynamic forever. For those experiencing abuse, I am available for longer term coaching and group coaching. Occasionally, I am available for intensive in-person coaching. Contact me for details.  

As a featured expert with 2018’s Emotional Abuse Recovery and Resiliency Summit, I helped people understand the role codependency plays in relationship challenges, starting with the one we hold with ourselves. 

It’s the magnet that attracts and the glue that binds abusive and otherwise unhealthy relationships. 

I’m a certified empowerment coach, author, 20-year addiction recovery specialist (coaching/sober companion and escorting/interventions), speaker and EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) practitioner.

If you need immediate assistance or feel you are in danger, call 911 or The Hotline (1-800-799-7233) which provides free support 24 hours a day. If you suspect your calls may be tracked or monitored, you may want to call from someone else’s phone. The Hotline has supported over 5 million people! Just promise me you will eventually work to release the victim mentality that may be further fortified by traditional abuse support resources.

The first time I called a domestic violence hotline, my advocate insisted I was a victim of an abusive partner and that this had nothing to do with me, like I’d just been dealt a bad hand in a game of relationships, by chance. 

The call helped me in the moment – and calls like this can and do save lives.

Sometimes we need to believe we are victims in order to extract ourselves from destructive relationships and begin a healing process. But when we exit as victims, unless we explore our role in the dynamics (the many ways and reasons we surrendered our power) we are doomed to repeat the patterns.

If we don’t heal from within, and change the ways we show up in relationships, we will either return to an unhealthy one or attract an equally or even more toxic and challenging one. The patterns often get worse…so please spare yourself the next round of the cycle.

Lasting healing and pattern shifting must be done at the level of the roots of our trauma, which are almost always found in our childhoods.

If you’re currently stuck in overwhelming emotional congestion, I encourage you to place your hands over your heart and take a few slow, deep breaths. There is something quite beautiful waiting for you on the other side of this traffic, and you’re going to get there.

Yes, even you, precious one. The very same sweet sensitivity that has made this relationship you’re struggling with so painful, and aspects of your life so challenging, is also one of your greatest superpowers. Learn how to activate it today. Call 516-526-8455, email or fill out this form: